I didn’t even fix this one, someone fixed it for me!
Confessions like this break my heart. To think, we as a people, are raising generations of women to hate themselves and think themselves ugly disgusts me. I don’t know what this girl actually looks like, but I know make-up doesn’t make her beautiful. Make-up doesn’t make anyone beautiful, it makes you change your physical appearance to meet the social norms of beauty.
Look what just popped up on my Facebook…
I…am at a loss of words, which doesn’t happen a lot.
saved this as “amazing.”
Doublespeak has the power to warp conceptual thinking and it provides a woman with the wiggle-room she needs to serve her own power. Maneuverings of this type are how a woman can grab the portfolio of entitlements that is most attractive to her on any given day- and resist scrutiny as she does so. The list of doublespeak goes on and on and on. Whereby ‘misogynist’ means ‘male who criticizes any woman’. ‘Blaming the victim’ means ‘women aren’t responsible for what they do’. ‘No means no’ means ‘I want the man to take the heat if I have second thoughts after we have sex’. ‘Male-dominated world’ or ‘patriarchy’ or ‘oppression of women’ all mean ‘multi-purpose scapegoat’. ‘I like you as a friend’ means ‘I think you’re a chump’. ‘You can trust me’ means ‘I’ll tell your secrets to everyone at the nail-salon the first chance I get’.
Doublespeak is meant to confuse us so that when the time comes, we will solemnly decide to act against our own interests for something ‘greater’ than ourselves: benefitting women. Doublespeak will trick a man into abusing himself and other men- for the sole purpose of proving to a woman how ‘masculine’ he is. And since a woman believes her own doublespeak propaganda is truth, she can scream and point fingers when things don’t turn-out the way she wanted. She’ll claim the man is to blame because he refuses to ‘listen’ and ‘communicate’(!)"
This makes me feel physically ill.
Internalized misogyny masked with impressive syntax and understandable diction does not make it any more than what it is: hate. Hate for women. Hate for people who love and respect women. Hate of self. Hate of fairness. Hate of respect. Hate of all. You can self-victimize all you want, until the day you die, but your hate will not be legitimatized. Your hate will not be followed. Your hate will not be loved. All you have done, is empower yet another feminist to continue the fight for fairness, justice, love, and respect for all. Congratulations, you have added to our fight, not extinguished it.
The above is a quote by Florynce Kennedy which I recently found in my “Feminism” tag. Now, I am very much against sexism and because of this I am not crazy about the above quote…but I think it raises an interesting point. Abortion is illegal in many states, and in many countries; these states/countries are being lead mostly by men, which by biological limitations usually are incapable of becoming pregnant. Why are people that are probably never going to face this issue/decision in their life, making legal decisions on my behalf? But, as soon as this question runs through my brain I immediately think…No. I disagree with many women who exclude men from the abortion debate, that because they are (usually) incapable of bearing children that they have no place in the discussion - this is a sexist, over simplification of the issue. Yes, whoever’s body is directly involved in the biological development of the child should, in my opinion, have the final say because they are putting their life at risk (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20427256/ns/health-pregnancy/t/more-us-women-dying-childbirth/) however they are not the only opinion. I think the opinion of the father should absolutely be a huge part of the decision making, if maybe not the deciding factor. This brings me back to the original quote “If men could get pregnant, abortion would be a sacrament.” I really do believe if the men in charge of these countries could understand the responsibility of having a uterus, and all the social rules that come to play in these situations (being a woman, being a pregnant woman, being a pregnant woman who isn’t sure if she wants the baby etc…) they would make more empathetic legal decisions. It’s hard to imagine that kind of pressure put on a woman, I can barely imagine it and I live with my womanhood every damn day.
I really don’t want reproductive issues to drive the sexes/genders apart, but I feel like that is whats happening. Personally, I am a big supporter of choice because I believe in being the only one in charge of my own body and I could never justify criminalizing abortion and sending my fellow sisters back to dark alleyways and dirty “doctors offices” to get illegal abortions. I don’t know if, considering my own morals, if I would be able to get an abortion myself but that opinion and moral dilemma has no place in this discussion - my morals shouldn’t stop you from making your own decision.
SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THIS.
1) sexism is just as disgusting when aimed at a man, as it is when aimed as a woman
2) using the word “slut” is disgusting within itself because shames people for having sex which we all know is a natural drive for humans
Sexism goes both ways, and is equally offensive. Feminists get such a bad wrap because we are associated with the man-bashing sexists - the way to equality is not to bring the rest down to our level, it is for all of us to rise above.