Or it means I think youre stupid and I’m making fun of you. Or that I consider talking to you a waste of time, so I’m being mean so you leave me alone. Or that youre generally annoying me. Or that I just dont feel like talking and youre not taking the hint. THIS is why guys and girls are so fucked up - because even when a girl is trying to clearly say “no” to your company, it just means she liiiiiikes you.
Do you ever just realize nothing it how it should be and you hate everything?
Like you’re sitting idly enough, going about your life, and all of a sudden a ton of bricks of shit fall on you and you realize you hate your life.
Not like, you hate that your computer froze, or you hate that you ran out of snacks.
But really dreadful, all encompassing hate for every aspect of your life?
The kind of hate that makes you pause, look at everything again, and sigh a bit.
And then you continue to carry on, not letting up that you just had a small existential crisis about your life.
Anyone else? Just me? Cool.
I really love this show; I think it is hilarious and interesting and modern and blah blah blah it’s legendary. But I really hate what they have done with Robin’s character. She was an independent woman, following her dream of becoming a reporter, funny and interesting…but she didn’t want a serious relationship or marriage, and doesn’t like kids - so obvi she is flawed. I dont like that they changed her core beliefs to fit gender roles for accurately. Instead of her just not wanting kids, her body is unable to have children - it couldn’t have just been her choice, no it was nature so it’s not her fault. And the marriage they’re hinting about to Barney, (side note: Barney is offensive and a womanizer but he is funny and honest about himself so that’s another story) - what the fuck!? Why does she need to get married, why cant she be herself and just not want to get married?! If a man never wanted to get married, and never did, it would just be he was bachelor, not that he needed to be changed.
Writers of HIMYM, WHAT THE FUCK MAN? WHY CANT ROBIN JUST BE BAD ALL BY HERSELF, WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO CHANGE HER CORE BEING?!
More misandrist lies.
As usual, it’s only a problem if it’s a problem for a women.
Women are born with worth and protected by society their entire lives.
Men are born worthless and must earn everything that will ever be attributed to them by combating each other and nature.
So, I just noticed this comment on my “fixed” version of the above picture (original on the left, mine on the right.)
“As usual, it’s only a problem if it’s a problem for a women.” - heh, really? Almost all of the problems acknowledged by our societies are ones that directly affect men, who are controlled by men for the benefit of men. That is, straight, white, able-bodied men. Do you have any idea how many women have been raped, beaten, forced into motherhood and pregnancy and tortured for men who fit the above description? How many women continue to suffer? While we, as a people, still call them weak for complaining, ungrateful for complaining, unfeminine and invaluable for complaining? Women’s* issues are not valued in this society, like most societies. I think the person who wrote this post is confusing a rising amount of feminists to a general societal stand point. A FEW women* are beginning to stand up and demand our problems be recognized, because for CENTURIES we were ignored, beaten, raped, and killed merely because we were women.
Next, “Women are born with worth and protected by society their entire lives.” Wrong again. Women are not born with worth, they are born just like the men are: screaming crying and covered with afterbirth. It is us, our society, that raises them to have “worth.” But only white, heterosexual, able-bodied men (preferably between 18-35) that have worth…not our women. Our women are subjected to forced pregnancies, domestic violence, shame, sex policing, rape, and general non-existent self-esteem. I again think you are confusing women who are found “worthy” for bearing lots of children, after marrying a man of the above qualifications. Also, women are NEVER truly protected in our society because it is one who shames rape survivors and excuses rapists, who blame domestic violence survivors and excuses abusers..the list goes on and on.
Next, “Men are born worthless and must earn everything that will ever be attributed to them by combating each other and nature.” - you’ve got to be kidding. Men are not born worthless, they never have been in history, it has always been an honor to have a son and a burden to have a daughter and although that mindset is no longer politically correct to speak about, do not doubt for a second it is not thought every time a child is born. Also, “men have to earn everything that will ever be attributed to them” - false. A lot of positive things are assumed about men, until proven otherwise, and in most cases even when they have proved to be anything but admirable they are excused for their behavior and again given a halo and a sword. You make a point that men are forced to be fighters, against nature and each other, this is true. This is a crime and most definitely something a man should be upset about and work against…but you’re not alone. Women fight every day, all day, just against a different enemy. And even speaking literally, it is insulting that women are not allowed to be soldiers like their male counterparts because it speaks to women being seen as weak, unreliable and in need of protecting.
And of course, the image. Without repeating myself, men are without a doubt assumed to be soldiers and are supposed to enjoy and honor this. I agree men are raised to be disposable, but so are women and to ignore that fact would be to ignore all of women kind and our problems (aren’t you supposed to pay attention to the problem if it’s a woman’s problems…oops, now we’re in a pickle.) And the slogan at the bottom “men to the dyin’ and women do the cryin’” Honestly, do you live in a bubble? Yes, men do die and are put in the line of fire more often than women, but “women do the cryin’” really? As if women are just sitting around sniffling all the time, being completely annoying and useless?
This is repugnant, inaccurate and socially offensive. Please leave Tumblr.
So I don’t feel like
when I look at myself in the shower.
Pizza bagels, let’s not lie here: I’m not going to eat you with fruits and vegetables. Im going to eat you when you’re still molten hot, off the tray I microwaved you in.
“The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.”
The thing about this quote is it makes me really emotional (PMS admittedly might be a contributing factor as of right now.) But it gets me right at the pit of my stomach. This, this moment when one of your male friends makes a joke about women in the kitchen, or rape, or assumes gendered stereotypes about you and you cant react properly because you have no idea how to verbalize why it hurts you so much - to know other people have these moments, although sad, makes me feel better. Most of my friends, people I love dearly, are men and most of them at some time or another has made a joke about this (or said it seriously, which is even worse.) To know I’m not being sensitive, that I’m not reading into their words too much, to know other people experience this and can vocalize it better than me is really comforting. I’m not happy other people have these moments, because as you know if you’ve ever experienced it, it is the worst, it punches you in the stomach and acts like it has no idea why you’re bruised and out of breath. But to know I’m not alone in my feminist sufferings, sometimes is my only comfort when my friends make these very comments to me daily and have no idea why I’m so awkwardly silent after.
“He or she may leave and return to the relationship many times. Do not criticize his or her decisions or try to guilt them. He or she will need your support even more during those times.”
How about instead of judging and “not forgiving her” (http://tumblr.thedailywh.at/post/17971666436/this-is-all-kinds-of-wrong-of-the-day-between) you support her and tell her we think she would be safer and healthy elsewhere, and tell her we have not forgiven him but she is a grown woman and knows what’s best; tell her you understand there was a lot of love in the relationship and cutting all ties is incredibly difficult. Tell her you understand this may be part of her healing process and you are a fan of her music and her, and you support her.
I think it’s imperative to clarify these sorts of photos, so they are not misinterpreted. The “Discover your Clitoris” slogan is aimed at women, to take back their sexuality. Now, what do you mean take back, the clitoris is on a woman so she obviously always owned it. False. For millennium the first thing taken from a woman was the ownership of her body, and her sexuality. This is still on the forefront of feminism - woman’s sexuality. As women, we are told to be shameful of our sexuality, to ignore it and “fake it.” To this day, female genital mutilation happens all over the globe - (which if you don’t know) thereby entirely disallows women to ever enjoy sex. Our sex is the first thing stolen from us, and the last thing we try to take back. These images and slogans, to me, mean discovering and taking ownership for our clitoris (the very part of our body entirely designed for sexual pleasure) because sexuality is natural and normal and something to be proud of. Women, find your clitoris, and next time someone tries to take ownership of it…remember it is yours, and you are strong and remember me and the woman in this photo - we know you are strong enough to own your own clitoris.
As November is concluding, all of my guy friends look like they have been living on a deserted island with no razor - they’re hairy. They’ve grown out their natural facial/body hair to show support for No Shave November which supports men’s health. I support them, even though some of them look a bit ridiculous, because I think it’s beautiful that they embrace their natural beauty (especially for such a good cause.) But, I haven’t noticed women not shaving for November nor have I noticed any call for this. Personally, I think it would be a beautiful statement for women to stop shaving to show support for their male counterparts…but I seem to be alone on this one. This brings me to my bigger issue: Why is a man embracing his natural hair seen as more manly, where as a woman embracing her natural hair seen an less womanly and more unattractive? My natural beauty, in my most basic naked form, should be considered beautiful because IT IS BEAUTIFUL. As a human, my most basic naked form includes natural body hair. On my head, in my arm pits, a bit on my tummy, on/near my genitals, and on my legs (some people even have it on their feet)…all of this is beautiful, because it is what my body looks organically, before I change my perception of beauty because of ads and celebrities and society as a whole. Now, I am in no way saying I am against hair cuts or shaving in general, I just am noticing the blatant sexism involved in shaving patterns in my country (USA.) Why, as a woman, am I less attractive when I allow my natural body hair to exist? I’ve heard tons of women say how much they like a man with a beard, but I’ve never heard a man say how much he likes a woman with hairy legs/arm pits? I remember begging my mom to let me start shaving when I was about 12-13yrs old, and she said I wasn’t old enough and that I didn’t need to yet (since my hair wasn’t noticeable)…she never said that I was beautiful with hair on my legs, she didn’t say that I shouldn’t change my body for other people - she said I wasn’t old enough yet.
Personally, I do not shave regularly any more because I want to feel beautiful in the body I have…not the body I create because of societal pressure. And, if I do ever end up having children and they want to shave their body in some way I will make sure to tell them how beautiful they are, how embracing their natural body is a beautiful thing and that they shouldn’t let other peoples definitions of beauty affect them to the point of changing their physical body.
Also, I know some men shave their body hair but I don’t think that is the norm for most men.
Also, I know in many other countries women do not shave their legs, but I live in USA and I am writing this because I am concerned and curious about our views on gender based shaving.
Women, embrace your body! Your arm pit hair is beautiful! Your leg hair is gorgeous! Be proud of the skin you are in…even when it grows hair! Don’t shave next November - show support for the men in your life by showing support for their health with No Shave November!