“men and women, legally, are considered equal”
What? Get out. White heterosexual man, get out of my women’s studies class if youre just wrong.
What? You feel ganged up on when the whole class of women say NO? Get your white man tears out of my face
“I (and, I suspect, pretty much any woman) can access that feeling really quickly and vividly—when you find yourself in conversation with a circle of men and, against your better judgment and all your feminist impulses, you just turtle up. You retire. You forfeit, because their lungs are bigger, they’re groomed for assertiveness since birth, and you’re groomed to assume that nobody will take you seriously anyway. You wait for a pause in a room of interruptors. Sigh. I do it like crazy, and I am a fucking loudmouth feminist yelling machine.”
I really love this show; I think it is hilarious and interesting and modern and blah blah blah it’s legendary. But I really hate what they have done with Robin’s character. She was an independent woman, following her dream of becoming a reporter, funny and interesting…but she didn’t want a serious relationship or marriage, and doesn’t like kids - so obvi she is flawed. I dont like that they changed her core beliefs to fit gender roles for accurately. Instead of her just not wanting kids, her body is unable to have children - it couldn’t have just been her choice, no it was nature so it’s not her fault. And the marriage they’re hinting about to Barney, (side note: Barney is offensive and a womanizer but he is funny and honest about himself so that’s another story) - what the fuck!? Why does she need to get married, why cant she be herself and just not want to get married?! If a man never wanted to get married, and never did, it would just be he was bachelor, not that he needed to be changed.
Writers of HIMYM, WHAT THE FUCK MAN? WHY CANT ROBIN JUST BE BAD ALL BY HERSELF, WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO CHANGE HER CORE BEING?!
“The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.”
The thing about this quote is it makes me really emotional (PMS admittedly might be a contributing factor as of right now.) But it gets me right at the pit of my stomach. This, this moment when one of your male friends makes a joke about women in the kitchen, or rape, or assumes gendered stereotypes about you and you cant react properly because you have no idea how to verbalize why it hurts you so much - to know other people have these moments, although sad, makes me feel better. Most of my friends, people I love dearly, are men and most of them at some time or another has made a joke about this (or said it seriously, which is even worse.) To know I’m not being sensitive, that I’m not reading into their words too much, to know other people experience this and can vocalize it better than me is really comforting. I’m not happy other people have these moments, because as you know if you’ve ever experienced it, it is the worst, it punches you in the stomach and acts like it has no idea why you’re bruised and out of breath. But to know I’m not alone in my feminist sufferings, sometimes is my only comfort when my friends make these very comments to me daily and have no idea why I’m so awkwardly silent after.
I feel a rant coming on!
You know who reads this shit? Young, dumb, and inexperienced girls read this. It fills their head with the idea that they are entitled to something that must be earned. Sure, you’re gonna’ have a harder time earning it because you’re a woman, but that doesn’t mean…
Posts like this are what remind me how important the feminist fight for equality is. A post like this just shows a clear misunderstanding of basic psycho/social structure of gender, sexism, and our modern world as a whole.
You think if you raise girls that their opinion doesn’t matter, that they are not important or smart or valued they will have any opinion when they’re “old ladies?” Once they are “old ladies” their backs will be bent from the burden of womanhood in a society that hates women - not osteoporosis. If you raise girls to undervalue themselves, you will have a generation of “old ladies” who see no value in their own daughters. If you raise girls to undervalue themselves, you raise boys to overvalue themselves and to push down their fellow sisters - you raise a generation of hate and misogyny.
Empowerment makes you want to puke? Your ignorance makes me want to puke as well.
I’ve replaced the sexist and stereotypical gifs with X’s because I cannot support disney’s binary and stereotypical views on gender…but I like the rest
Doublespeak has the power to warp conceptual thinking and it provides a woman with the wiggle-room she needs to serve her own power. Maneuverings of this type are how a woman can grab the portfolio of entitlements that is most attractive to her on any given day- and resist scrutiny as she does so. The list of doublespeak goes on and on and on. Whereby ‘misogynist’ means ‘male who criticizes any woman’. ‘Blaming the victim’ means ‘women aren’t responsible for what they do’. ‘No means no’ means ‘I want the man to take the heat if I have second thoughts after we have sex’. ‘Male-dominated world’ or ‘patriarchy’ or ‘oppression of women’ all mean ‘multi-purpose scapegoat’. ‘I like you as a friend’ means ‘I think you’re a chump’. ‘You can trust me’ means ‘I’ll tell your secrets to everyone at the nail-salon the first chance I get’.
Doublespeak is meant to confuse us so that when the time comes, we will solemnly decide to act against our own interests for something ‘greater’ than ourselves: benefitting women. Doublespeak will trick a man into abusing himself and other men- for the sole purpose of proving to a woman how ‘masculine’ he is. And since a woman believes her own doublespeak propaganda is truth, she can scream and point fingers when things don’t turn-out the way she wanted. She’ll claim the man is to blame because he refuses to ‘listen’ and ‘communicate’(!)"
This makes me feel physically ill.
Internalized misogyny masked with impressive syntax and understandable diction does not make it any more than what it is: hate. Hate for women. Hate for people who love and respect women. Hate of self. Hate of fairness. Hate of respect. Hate of all. You can self-victimize all you want, until the day you die, but your hate will not be legitimatized. Your hate will not be followed. Your hate will not be loved. All you have done, is empower yet another feminist to continue the fight for fairness, justice, love, and respect for all. Congratulations, you have added to our fight, not extinguished it.
SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THIS.
1) sexism is just as disgusting when aimed at a man, as it is when aimed as a woman
2) using the word “slut” is disgusting within itself because shames people for having sex which we all know is a natural drive for humans